Soft truths, hard verdicts.
Honest reads on love, sex, bodies and relationships — unpreachy, shame-free, and written for real life in India. Every piece from the archive, right here.
The Things Nobody Told You About Being a Good Partner
Most men aren't cruel to their partners. They stopped looking. Four things you've been comfortable not seeing, and what it costs her every time you don't.
The Manosphere Doesn’t Just Sell Misogyny. It Sells Belonging.
Young men are lonely. They are anxious about money, work and what being a man is supposed to mean now. And an entire online economy has figured out how to turn that uncertainty into subscriptions, supplements, coaching programmes and resentment.
You Have a Partner. So Why Do You Feel So Alone?
Sometimes the loneliest place is beside someone who no longer seems curious about you. Here is how to recognise emotional loneliness in a relationship, talk about it and understand when the distance can be repaired.
"Adjust Kar Lo": Adjust to What, Exactly?
Everyone gets told to adjust. Almost nobody gets told what to. Three questions that tell you whether you are compromising like an adult or being asked to disappear.
Am I Too Young for Perimenopause? Why It Starts Earlier for Indian Women
Indian women reach menopause around 46, five years earlier than the global average. Perimenopause starts four to ten years before that. Chechi does the arithmetic nobody did for us, and explains what to ask your doctor when the tests come back normal.
"All You Have To Do Is Ask" Is Not the Flex He Thinks It Is
Your father waits for tea. Your brother waits for someone to clear his plate. Your husband asks if you have made the grocery list. Nobody thinks they are doing anything, which is exactly what makes it so hard to argue about.
90s Kids Are Dating Again and Nobody Warned Them
“90s Kids” topped Tinder profiles in India, which means a whole generation is swiping again. Chechi explains what changed while you were gone—and how to date after 30 without pretending to be chill, decoding mixed signals or treating your fully formed life like baggage.
When Should Sex Education Start in India? Age 3, Not Class 9
India may finally make sex education mandatory, and Chechi has one demand: start at three, not fourteen. At three it isn't about sex at all. It's a child knowing the real names of their body, that it belongs to them, and that their no counts. Words are the kindest thing we can hand them.
Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends as an Adult?
Belonging used to arrive with your life: cousins, neighbours, the aunty who walked in without knocking. Now you have to build it yourself, and nobody handed you the manual. Chechi explains what actually changed, why the festival-for-the-gram version doesn't count, and the small, unglamorous moves that turn strangers into your people.
Why Can't I Orgasm? The Real Reason Behind the Orgasm Gap (It's Not You)
Wondering why orgasm seems easy for everyone except you? The problem may not be your body at all. Chechi explains how missing anatomy, bad sex education and unequal ideas about pleasure created the orgasm gap—and what you can do to understand your body better.
Solo-Maxxing and the Quiet Rewrite of What Marriage Was Supposed to Mean
Solo-maxxing is more than a dating trend. It reflects a growing decision to build a complete life before considering marriage, and to choose relationships only when they genuinely add to it.
The Rizz Chechi Dating Dictionary: Every Slang Word Worth Actually Knowing
From ghosting and breadcrumbing to wildflowering, nanoships and monkey-barring, this dating dictionary explains the slang terms shaping modern relationships in 2026.
Why Emotionally Unavailable People Feel Like Chemistry
Butterflies do not always mean you have found the right person. Sometimes, what feels like chemistry is actually anxiety caused by inconsistency, emotional unavailability and familiar relationship patterns.
You Stop Performing: The Biggest Sign You're In The Right Relationship
The clearest sign of a healthy relationship is not perfect communication or constant romance. It is being able to stop performing and feel safe being completely, imperfectly yourself.
The Hymen Myth Has Ruined Enough Lives
The hymen is not a seal, first-time sex does not always cause bleeding, and no examination can prove whether someone has had sex. Here is the anatomy, law and pseudoscience behind one of the most damaging myths imposed on women.
After Unprotected Sex: Facts First, Shame Never
The condom broke, the pill was missed, or the plan disappeared in the moment. Here is what to do after unprotected sex in India, from emergency contraception and pregnancy testing to STI care, abortion rights, and getting around judgemental providers. Facts first. Shame never.
Too Indian for Tinder, Too Western for Shaadi.com
For the unmarried Indian woman dating between apps, family calls, biodatas, guilt, and “what will people say?” This is about the daughter split: adult in your own life, still on probation inside the family system.
Questions to Ask Before You Say Yes to a Rishta
A rishta is not just biodata, salary, family background, and tea with mixture. Before you say yes, ask about the everyday life: money, housework, parents, conflict, intimacy, children, values, and whether you feel like a person or a candidate.
Being Important Is Not the Same as Being Chosen
Someone can care about you, miss you, rely on you, and still not choose you clearly. Chechi explains how to recognise when you are being kept as a backup option, ask for clarity, and step away without guilt.
The Breakup Recovery Timeline Nobody Gives You
Breakup recovery is not a neat 30-day challenge. Chechi walks you through what the first days, weeks, and months can actually feel like, and how to stop organising your life around him.
How to Go No-Contact and Actually Stick to It
No-contact is not about proving a point. It is about giving yourself enough distance to stop reopening the same wound. Chechi explains when to go no-contact, what to block, what to do when he texts, and how to stay steady when you miss him.
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How to Leave a Situationship (Actually)
A situationship can feel like a relationship in private but leave you confused in real life. Chechi explains how to ask for clarity, leave without over-explaining, detach properly, and stop waiting to be chosen.
A Love Letter to the Uniqlo Airism Bra, from a Woman Who Has Known Suffering
Three years strong, zero red flags, no breadcrumbing. Chechi writes a love letter to the most dependable relationship in her life: the Uniqlo Airism bra.